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____________________________________ Parent-
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conferences:
Online advice
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By
BILL STAMATIS
Parent-teacher
conferences are often a source of anxiety and trepidation
for teachers, parents and students. However, they are your
first best chance to connect to the parents and guardians
of your students. Here are some online resources that may
help make your meeting with parents positive and productive.
Since conferences are scheduled for mid-November, you or
your school, should quickly contact parents reminding them
of the dates. If you haven't already done so, let parents
know what you hope to accomplish with their children this
year and that you look forward to meeting them. NYSUT, the
UFT's state affiliate, offers some "Dos and Don'ts" at http://nysut.org/newmember/survival_
conferences.html.
They include how to dress, avoiding
subjective statements and, instead,
relying on actual results that
show what the student must do
to improve.
NYSUT recommends refraining from using education buzzwords
like "cooperative learning" and abbreviations like
ACT, SAT and IEP. Instead you should use parenthetical explanations
like, "This year we will use math manipulatives, which
are objects, like this set of marbles, that let kids touch
and experience what is meant by mathematical symbols."
Another great site, written by Allison Demas, is from the
Teacher Network (www.teachersnetwork.org/ntny/nychelp/
need_to_know/ptconfer.htm).
One of the problems on parent-teacher
conference days is seeing all
the parents within an allotted
time period. The most frustrating
thing for parents is having to
wait so long that they miss seeing
half of the teachers whom they
came to see. Demas shows you
how to schedule conferences so
you can see everyone, what you
need to do to be prepared to
conduct the conference and then
how to end the conversation.
The ending is very important, Demas says. "If
you have had to be the bearer of bad news the parents may
be surprised, shocked and embarrassed. This puts them at
a disadvantage and may work against you. You need the parents
to leave with a positive feeling about both you and their
child's academic situation (even if the student's current
academic situation is not a good one)." Always
end on a positive note and take the opportunity to establish
a partnership with them. Remember that the children you're |
speaking
about are the apples of their
parents' eyes.
Scholastic
offers another set of tips
written by Linda Shalaway
(http://teacher.scholastic.com/products/
instructor/planning_parent_conf.htm)
that also emphasize
preparedness.
She suggests
that you put
together some
student work
and a schedule
of daily activities
so the parent
can know something
about their child's
typical day.
Shalaway provides
a "Sample
Parent Conference
Form" for
parents to complete
before the first
conference that
asks parents
to assess the
strengths and
weaknesses of
their child.
There is a similar
form for you
to fill out.
If you are delivering
bad news about
academic or behavioral
concerns, Shalaway
says, avoid jargon
and be tactful, "but
not so tactful
that you don't
adequately communicate
the problem."
If you want to know how to comment on a student's report
card, take a look at Report Card Comments at (http://expage.com/4reportcards),
which contains links to other sites.
One is to Indiana University East Beginning Teacher Mentor
Program (www.iue.indiana.edu/Departments/
mentor/parent_con.html).
It offers a few good suggestions
that everyone should consider.
For example, ask an administrator
or another supportive professional
to sit in on any meeting with
parents that you think might
be difficult. Having another
adult in the room can often change
the dynamics of the interchange.
A strategy that is worth considering for middle- and high-schoolers
is the student-led conference. This makes the student an
integral part of the discussion with both the parent and
teacher, and a partner in the outcome. On the MiddleWeb site
(www.middleweb.com)
you'll find "The Highs and Lows of Parent-Teacher Conferences" by
Holly Holland, which describes some of the dynamics involved
in conferences that include students. For instance, Louisville,
Ky., middle school teacher Dena Kent found that asking students
to assess their own work taught them to accept responsibility
for their actions. In fact, she adds, "When students
deliver the bad news, parents are more receptive. It's not
the teacher [who's] to blame."
This is just a smattering of Web sites that offer teachers
help for conducting parent-teacher conferences. For more,
go to http://uft.org/new_teacher/menu/news/.
One other tip: Pay attention to the sites that offer advice
to parents, because they will clue you in to what typical
parents want to know about their children's progress in school. |